My grief is overwhelming me. I can’t get over that they are gone. I can’t wrap my head around it, I don’t feel like myself, and I feel like a part of me died with them. What happens now?
This is really a terrible feeling. There is often of feeling like you are out of your body. Like, you are numb to the world and confused about your direction. It is often a feeling of disconnecting. Next steps are painful and can feel more isolating
Often a lot of people don’t know what to say to us during this time and it can get frustrating because you really don’t know what they should say but what they are saying isn’t helpful sometimes.
Healing from grief often always happens well in community. A lot of times that is joining a grief group, attending therapy to readjust to your life, and letting people into your emotional world that you trust.
This is a time for healing and taking care of yourself, therefore this needs to be a priority. Often times we have to take care of funeral arrangements, food, and flowers and that is an immediate priority that makes sense. Afterwards, when the world has moved on and you have not, you need to make yourself a priority.
Allow yourself to feel the loss and process the way you need to process. If you shut out your emotions it comes back in strange ways and causes a lot of problems connecting with other people.
Depending on where you are in your grief, it may have been immediate, or two years ago. There are certain things that you are going to be ready to do and there are some things that you will not be ready to do. If you have kids, or other family members dealing with the loss as well these issues can get tricky fast and outside help can be very beneficial to the healing process.
Together we will take things one breathe at a time, and allow life to slow down to handle what needs to be handled in the moment. Grief doesn’t go away, but it changes over time. At Mountainside we are here to help you understand and process this tragedy with you, so you are not dealing with it alone.